Netiquette: Aliases vs. IRL Identities
The reason I ask is that I left a comment on a friend's weblog, using my usual handle of "arensb". We know each other in meatspace, and he left a reply that gave my real name.
Now, this isn't a big deal, since I've never made my real-life identity a secret. The only reason it jumped out at me is that when I reply to an online identity, I try to refer to that identity in my replies. I even go so far as to keep a person's different identities separate: a few of my LJ friends have left comments on my other weblog, using nicknames other than their LJ identities. If I get an idea for a post from so_and_so, I'll refer to so_and_so in the post. But if that person then leaves a comment under the name "Alice", I might reply with "Alice makes a good point", rather than "so_and_so makes a good point".
Am I being too sensitive? Am I trying too hard to preserve the tattered shreds of online privacy and anonymity? Or did my friend commit a (very minor) breach of etiquette?